Four Things Every Narcissist I've Encountered Had in Common

Renne Meejah
Mar 9
3 min read

1. In the love-bombing stage, there will be a barrage of burst-style text messages out of nowhere.

For example, you're having a quiet day at work or just doing your normal activities, nothing too exciting, and then, out of the blue, a narcissist will come in and bombard you with a burst of text out of nowhere!

• Typically, these texts start off casual, but as they continue, they become increasingly emotionally charged. They will send them one after another, responding to your last text in seconds, as if they’re sitting on the phone waiting for each of your replies.

• This takes your semi-casual day and turns it into something exciting because there is a feeling in the air that the relationship is really taking off!

• He might start revealing to you things that are really personal, such as love confessions or truths you were wondering about. Even why he’s been missing, what he’s afraid of, and what he wants out of the relationship.

These emotionally charged responses, coupled with high frequency, create strong interest and even feelings of bonding.

The narcissist is aware of this on some level. This is a part of the love-flooding and flattery stage.

2. They will indoctrinate you with emphasis on their looks and money

They will say statements such as:

"I’m good looking and got money I can get anything I want".

"People are obsessed over how good looking and rich I am".

Whether it’s a man or woman, there is a frequent emphasis on their money and looks as a tool.

They repeat these sentiments almost like a mantra, expecting you to nod and agree all the way! This validates their feelings of grandiosity and control over how others perceive them.

Many narcissists operate by "fake it until you make it," and believe if they say it enough times and can get others to believe it, it magically comes true.

If you want to examine this subject more, look up cult leaders, such as the man who claims to be Jesus Christ and runs a compound in Australia.

Many, if not all, cult leaders display traits of narcissism and believe that if they can continuously repeat mantras enough, they will eventually get people to believe them, even if that means punishing those who disagree.

Being constantly pushed to admire a person for superficial reasons may mean they’re a narcissist.

3. All narcissists I’ve encountered have bragged about their abilities to dominate in relationships.

Claims to have power over people in relationships, such as a man claiming to have power over women or a woman claiming to be able to control and dominate men.

In private conversations they boast and brag about being able to get whatever they want out of a person
Having a person obsessed over them
Being a major emotional disturbance in that persons life

For a narcissist, feeling needed by other people is crucial to maintaining their systems of control.

4. Another trait they all seem to share is grandiosity this often plays out through

Mysterious and hidden powers through some special spiritual circles, invite-only groups, or hidden societies.

This one is huge; it is not uncommon for narcissists to join secret societies to seek out narcissistic supply. The narcissistic supply here is the feeling of being connected to powerful people, the feeling of exclusivity, and being able to create mystery around their knowledge and skills.

The narcissist wants to appear all-knowing, well connected, or in extreme cases like he can make or break you.

This satisfies the narcissist's feelings of superiority, grandiosity, control over people, and more.

In the case of a smear campaign that may occur if you discard the narcissist, he may enlist the help of people from these groups to keep tabs on you or to answer questions about you.

This presents the idea that the narcissist is somehow mysteriously all-knowing if they suddenly reappear in your life, or that you are more connected with them on a deeper level than you thought.

4 TRAITS EVERY NARCISSISTS I'VE ENCOUNTERED SHARE

So if you find someone is love bombing you with a barrage of messages, nudging you to constantly admire them, boasting about dominating others, bragging about being a member of special networks and groups, these are definitely signs you’re dealing with a narcissist, and hopefully, you’ve gotten away from them. If they have left you, you have not missed out! They’re more than likely trying to regain control of the relationship.